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The end of May is such a fun time and with Memorial Day right around the corner, I'm excited for summer parties and the season of vacation to begin :) Do you have any fun summer plans or wish list getaways?


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1. // This little guy just has my heart all tangled up. He is SO much like Jon! 
2. // Me and my beau! 
3. // Playing with Spring colors. 
4. // Even energetic toddlers need a rest break. ;)  

A LITTLE UPDATE ON SAVANNAH'S LIFE...

Jon and I celebrated our 5 year wedding anniversary late last week! It's been a hectic and busy past two weeks so we didn't do much on the actual day for our anniversary. We had plans to leave and go on a trip to Universal, but sadly had to cancel due to circumstances outside of our control. We were definitely bummed. SO bummed! Since we already made plans for Soren to be watched by grandparents we decided to try and make the best of it and plan a last-minute getaway here in Atlanta. Just the two of us. So far, it has been exactly what we needed. Whether we are taking over the parks at Universal or stay-cationing in ATL, I'm just so thankful to have Jon and have time for the two of us. 

As soon as we get back I've got to gear myself up for a busy rest of the month. Un-plugging and taking time off tends to mean you get behind on everything. ;) It will be worth it though. 

CHECK THIS OUT 

1. // 25 tips and tricks to get the perfect bun. Love this!
2. // Saw Pitch Perfect 2 last night in theaters and it was SO funny! 
3. // Little Mayhem designed a capsule collection for J. Crew Kids. Too cute. :) 


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FAVORITE SNAPSHOTS

All of these photos are from our trip to Vogel this past weekend. I just love the one of Rowan with his granddaddy and his cousin Thomas. And I'm pretty sure Rowan is trying to feed Thomas a rock in that last one. :)

A LITTLE UPDATE ON JENNY'S LIFE...

This past weekend, I took Rowan up to Vogel State Park with Drew's family. Drew was working the whole weekend so he couldn't make it, but we still had a great time. It was my first time to Vogel and I have to say that I fell in love. It's so peaceful and beautiful there. We spent most of the weekend sitting outside by the lake in front of our cabin, watching the babies try to eat rocks and enjoying their fascination with every noise and new thing.

I've been busy doing some spring cleaning around the house. I cleaned out the garage last night and am working on finishing painting our bedroom and bathroom tonight. It's pretty boring stuff, but it keeps me motivated. I don't take many breaks during the day, however, I like to rotate my tasks between taking care of Rowan, doing house chores, getting work done, working on creative projects, and knocking out my personal to-do list. I've found that constantly rotating my tasks throughout the day really helps me stay jazzed!! ;)

CHECK THIS OUT 

1. // I have a HUGE Memorial Day Sale going on over at my print shop!!! You should definitely check it out. :D
2. // My sister just launched her new site!! :)
3. // Love this post on motherhood and postpartum depression.


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Author: Jenny Highsmith + Savannah Wallace // Video + Photography: Maiedae
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I hope you all have loved this Week of Friendship! It's been really fun for us to focus on a topic - especially such a fun one as this. Please let us know in the comments if you have any ideas for future "week of" series.

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Today, I want to talk to you about championing one another. There's a funny thing about relationships women have with each other. I think about so many times that I've walked into a room full of women and automatically felt the pressure - - The pressure to be something. Someone. The guilt for mistakes I've made as a women. As a mother. And that invisible ruler to all but me of where I measure up. It's mostly pressure I've put on myself, but it feels just as heavy all the same. I think about women in my life and examples from the media of how women are supposed to interact with each other. Women are supposed to compete. Women are supposed to talk about each other, be jealous of each other, have surface level friendships, and be there to point out the worst. To only hang out in the good times. But, you know, I think women have gotten a bad rap. I think women are capable of so much more and so much better at relationships than what we see put out there as examples. I think we have the potential to be real with each other, to be intentional listeners, to be quick to forgive and pour out love, to wish and work for the best in each other, to truly be champions of each other. But there's something huge that gets in the way: we don't take care of ourselves.  

In order to be champions of each other, we have to first be champions of ourselves. We have to love ourselves and believe in our abilities. As my college mentor told me, "You can't be a starving baker." In other words, you can't expect to take care of others or have healthy relationships if you aren't taking care of yourself. If you are starving, you can't give to others. I think this one is where so many of us fall short. We think that in order to do our best, we have to give everything to others. We often don't give ourselves any time to invest in our own personal growth or care. And, although that seems like such a selfless quality, I think it's holding us back from better, deeper relationships with others. Because, if we would take the time to care for ourselves, we'll be in such a better position to invest ourselves in others. 

Championing each other is a beautiful thing. In my opinion, it's the epitome of actively walking alongside someone and working with them to achieve the best version of themselves. It's selfless. It's mutual. And I think it's one of the things that we as women are made to be really great at. So, now, when I walk into a crowd of women, I've promised myself that I'll automatically assume that each of us in the room ares champions of each other. Because it gets rid of all the negative competition and replaces it with understanding, empathy, and encouragement. At least in my head it does. And really, that's all each of us can control. 


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Have you been enjoying the Week of Friendship?? :) I think it's so much fun to focus on a topic and go in depth. Today, I want to talk about how to not be a sucky friend. A.k.a. - how to be a good friend. I know we've all had friends that we just didn't want to be around. Ones that we avoided. Or maybe we've been that person. So what is it about those friendships that make you completely nervous, drained of energy and anxious? Let's talk about it. Because none of us wants to be a bad friend. So... I've come up with a little quiz for us to take to see if we are good friends or if we could use some work :) Ready to get started?

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1. Why are you friends with this person?  - - This can be a telling question if you are honest with yourself and can think through the desires and reasons behind your actions. Ask yourself - how did I feel when I became friends with them? Was it because I really liked them? Was it because they initiated it? Was it because we had similar interests? Was it because I felt bad for them? Whatever your reason for becoming friends, think then about your personal motivation in continuing your friendship.

2. What is your favorite part of your friendship? - - If you can name what you think makes your friendship great, that's wonderful! If you are drawing a blank or having a hard time putting it into words, take some time to be introspective and think through specific circumstances in your friendship that make it good.

3. Name 3 ways this person has positively affected you. - - This could be the way they make you feel, characteristics they've helped sharpen, bad habits they've helped you overcome, qualities that they've helped grow in you. Basically, any positive effect that you can think of. If this question is difficult for you to answer, take some time to think about it. If you still can't come up with anything, you might be in a friendship that is better for them than it is for you. And that's okay! It doesn't mean you don't need to be friends. Over time, you want to notice positive changes happening in both of you to make for a healthy friendship.

4. Name 3 ways that you have positively affected this person. - - This might take some asking. You may have noticed some ways in which they are a better person, but asking them this question can not only provide clarity, but it could also start a really good and transparent conversation about how you both are doing in your friendship. Savannah and I love to reflect on ways in which we both have bettered the other person as well as ways in which we could do better. Be sure to keep the conversation positive and set right expectations ahead of time.

5. How do you feel when this person calls or texts you? - - Do you feel anxious or nervous? Do you avoid their call or don't want to respond? Maybe they always call when you're putting your baby down for a nap and it makes you frustrated. Or maybe you get really excited to hear from them every time. Think about why you feel the way you do and if that has more to do with the situation or with your actual friendship. Maybe you just need to talk with them about what are good times to talk and what are not. Maybe you need to set up the expectation that Wednesdays are date night with your husband so you can't hang out then. Whatever it is, have grace and understanding with each other. And remember that your friend can't meet all your needs.

6. Are you both clear with your expectations for the other person? - - Expectations are huge. I think they are the number one reason why so many relationships and friendships either thrive or fail. You need to ask yourself "What are my expectations?" - not only with what your friendship will look like (ex: how often you will hang out, do you want to be accountable to each other? if so, how? and what does that look like, do you want your kids to hang out?, do you want to tell each other everything or are you just casual "fun" friends?), but also the root of your friendship. Another way this could be said is, "What do you expect your friend to fulfill in your life?" Do you want them to make you feel less lonely or depressed? Do you want them to be your only friend? Will you be sad or upset if you can't hang out all the time or if they have other friends? Sometimes just asking ourselves these questions can help us discover if we have pure motives or selfish ones. It can help us realize if we are setting up unrealistic expectations for our friendship. Once you've established your expectations for hanging out, being friends, etc. then, most importantly, communicate these expectations to your friend!

7. Do you respect each other? - - If you don't show respect to one another, then that can be a red flag for something being wrong. Maybe you have emotions bottled up that you haven't communicated or maybe you're using guilt or manipulation to get them to do what you want. Whatever it is, ask yourself if how you speak and act toward your friend communicates respect or not. If not, set aside some time to talk with each other. Set up right expectations by communicating with your friend that you value respect and what that looks like to you. Then, ask them how they feel respected in a friendship and what that looks like for them. 

8. When you have a problem with your friend, what do you do? - - This one is huge. Do you talk to them when you have a problem? Do you talk to other people about your friend or the problem you have with them? Being friends requires trust and communication. And if you aren't communicating with each other, then you're probably communicating with someone else about each other or bottling it up. And if you bottle it up, it's going to affect the way you speak to them, act around them, and think about them. It's going to hurt you more than it hurts them. So, if you have a problem with a friend, talk to them first.

So how did you do? I know I constantly need to go over questions like these to make sure that I stay on track. Being a good friend takes a lot of work. Like Savannah said yesterday, friendships need a lot of love and care. They need effective communication, understood expectations, and right motivations. A good friendship is definitely worth the effort, though. :D


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